“Love Is Not A Feeling”

“Love is not a feeling. It’s a commitment. Loving Sung enough to marry him, is like a making a promise and commitment that I will keep up. Marriage is not something I do just because of the feelings I have towards him…..because feelings come and go. There are times when I feel annoyed or angry at Sung, but I have to remember that I love him, which means, I am committed to make it work, and be considered at all times…that ‘keeps up’ a marriage.”

These words were repeated during Lynn and Sung’s wedding ceremony. This was the most important thing that they learned at their premarital class, and one of the most important relationship advice I’d ever received from someone.

“Premarital classes?” I remember asking in curiosity..I’ve never heard of that before. If you were like Lynn and Sung, where your story isn’t about a whirlwind romance, and it isn’t a story where he swept you off your feet, or a secret surprise proposal that made everyone cry, you might have heard of or been planning to attend a premarital class.

This is a story of a steady, comfortable, assured relationship, where both Lynn and Sung took that walk towards marriage, one step at a time, TOGETHER. No doubts, no “I don’t know what he’s feeling..” or “What if she says no?”… I think that the idea of deciding to be married to someone, once it hits you, is a big one. And often times, this is an internal decision you make and experience individually (for me at least). Then, it’s usually the execution of that decision that creates the romance and perhaps, a surprise proposal. But wouldn’t it be nice to have that experience together? To discover that “I’m ACTUALLY going to spend my entire life with you” feeling, together? That, told me that Lynn and Sung are going to have a marriage that will last a lifetime and beyond.

Some wedding info:
Venue: Eaglewood Resort & Spa (www.eaglewoodresort.com): 1401 Nordic Road, Itasca, IL 60143 | (630) 773-1400
Flowers : Tatiana at Mila Design (www.miladesign.com) | (773) 395 0231